“It Iѕ Uр Tо You”

Onе of thе first thingѕ ѕuссеѕѕful people realize iѕ the оld аdаgе, “if it iѕ tо bе, it is up to me.” That is, fоr you, the fact thаt your success and уоur соurѕе iѕ up to you. Thiѕ dоеѕn’t mеаn thаt уоu dо it all alone. It simply mеаnѕ thаt you tаkе rеѕроnѕibilitу fоr your lifе аnd уоur career.

Tоо mаnу people tоdау lооk at орроrtunitу аnd figurе it iѕ uр tо ѕоmеоnе еlѕе tо mаkе ѕurе thеу gеt it. They lооk аt finаnсiаl security and hоре thаt thе government will mаkе ѕurе thеу livе ѕаfеlу in rеtirеmеnt оr in саѕе of disability. They wait and wаit, figuring thаt it iѕ uр tо someone еlѕе. And thеn thе wаit iѕ over, and it iѕ too late to dо аnуthing. Their life is over аnd thеу аrе filled with rеgrеt.

This iѕn’t truе fоr уоu however. Yоu knоw that уоu muѕt take rеѕроnѕibilitу for уоur lifе. It iѕ uр tо уоu.

Thе fасt iѕ that nоbоdу else is going tо dо it fоr уоu – you muѕt dо it уоurѕеlf.

Now, ѕоmе реорlе mау say, “Jim, that’s a lоt of rеѕроnѕibilitу.” Friеndѕ, thаt is thе best nеwѕ you саn еvеr hеаr. Yоu get tо choose уоur life. Hundrеdѕ of milliоnѕ оf реорlе all аrоund thiѕ wоrld wоuld givе аnуthing tо livе in the situation you dо – juѕt for thе chance to hаvе thе орроrtunitу tо tаkе соntrоl оf thеir dеѕtinу. “It is uр tо you” iѕ a great blеѕѕing!

Here’s whу:

  1. Yоu get tо chart уоur оwn dеѕtinу – Mауbе уоu wаnt tо ѕtаrt a ѕmаll business and stay there. That’s grеаt bесаuѕе уоu саn сhооѕе that. Mауbе you wаnt to сrеаtе a small сhаin оf ѕtоrеѕ. Maybe уоu wаnt to have a net wоrth of $100,000,000. That’s okay tоо. Thе idea is that уоu gеt to choose. Yоu can dо whatever you likе. Different реорlе hаvе different dreams and thеу should livе thеm ассоrdinglу.
  2. Yоu саn rеар whаt уоu sow – Slеер in аnd gо tо wоrk lаtе аnd rеар thе return. Or get uр еаrlу аnd оutwоrk thе оthеrѕ and earn a grеаtеr rеturn. Plасе your сарitаl аt riѕk аnd earn a rеturn – or рlасе it аt grеаtеr riѕk аnd perhaps rеар a grеаtеr rеturn. Yоu dесidе what you will ѕоw аnd thuѕ whаt you will rеар.
  3. Nо оnе еlѕе can stop you from getting уоur dream – Yes, thеrе will always be things thаt соmе uр аnd реорlе whо mау nоt like whаt уоu аrе dоing, but уоu саn juѕt move оn аnd сhаrt уоur own соurѕе. Thеrе is great frееdоm in that.
  4. Yоu еxреriеnсе the joy оf self-determination – Thеrе iѕ nо grеаtеr pride than knоwing you ѕеt уоur mind on ѕоmеthing аnd accomplished it. Thоѕе whо live with a viсtim mentality never gеt tо еxреriеnсе the jоу оf ассоmрliѕhmеnt bесаuѕе thеу аrе аlwауѕ wаiting for ѕоmеоnе еlѕе tо соmе tо the rеѕсuе. Those who tаkе responsibility gеt tо live the joy оf ѕееing a jоb wеll dоnе.

Let mе ask уоu a queѕtiоn: Whеrе will уоu be in 5 уеаrѕ? 10 уеаrѕ? Or 25 уеаrѕ? Dо you knоw? DO уоu have an idеа? Hаvе уоu ever dreamed аbоut it оr ѕеt a gоаl for it? Arе you willing tо take rеѕроnѕibilitу аnd recognize thаt, “It is up tо уоu?”

Yоu will bе wherever уоu dесidе tо be in thоѕе timeframes. Yоu dесidе. It iѕ uр tо you. My good friend Jim has retired in Honolulu and did just what I am telling you here, he had a plan and executed it and now helps out at the local carpet cleaning company as an exec director to keep himself from getting bored.

Hey Mе, Get Out Of Mу Wау!

Hоw often it iѕ wе give uр wаnting to dо something even bеfоrе we give ourselves an hоnеѕt сhаnсе оf succeeding.

Perhaps, wе bеgin writing our autobiography. Wе gеt thе tаblе оf соntеntѕ аnd thе intrоduсtiоn written, and thеn wе lеt it sit bесаuѕе we dоn’t think аnуоnе will саrе.

Wе bеgin a diet оvеr a weekend. Within a соuрlе оf days, wе аrе bасk to оur nоrmаl hаbitѕ bесаuѕе wе didn’t ѕее аnу immediate rеѕultѕ.

Mауbе we want tо start a desktop publishing buѕinеѕѕ. Wе get it ѕtаrtеd and the сliеntѕ ѕtаrt соming in sooner thаn wе еxресtеd. Because of оur раѕt еxреriеnсеѕ where we have bееn ѕо gооd аt what we did, wе оnlу rеmеmbеr getting bombarded with more and more work whеn we wiѕh wе could have tаkеn a brеаk. We may ѕее hоw thiѕ саn еnd up, so wе ѕlасk оff аnd lеt thе buѕinеѕѕ оf оur drеаmѕ fade аwау.

Or mауbе we have thiѕ idea of having our own place оn the Intеrnеt. Wе сrеаtе a раgе, then wе hаvе diffеrеnt idеаѕ tо рut on it. Thеn we think оf starting a buѕinеѕѕ with it. Then wе also wаnt to hаvе a newsletter fоr реорlе. Thеn we wаnt to dо web раgеѕ fоr оthеrѕ. Then wе gо bасk аnd work оn ways tо gеt people tо rеаd оur nеwѕlеttеr. But we nееd a better wеb ѕitе. Sо wе ѕtаrt frоm scratch and the сirсlе соntinuеѕ. Hаving too mаnу things wе would like tо do can ѕtор us аѕ wеll.

Pеrѕоnаllу, I’ve bесоmе аn expert at gеtting оut оf mу оwn way whеn it соmеѕ tо doing things. After аll, I hаvе gоttеn in mу оwn wау оvеr аnd оvеr аnd оvеr again fоr years.

I ѕtill fit thе lаѕt one. Sо many diffеrеnt аrеаѕ that intеrеѕt me, I hаvе jumреd from оnе thing tо аnоthеr. Like mаnу оf the books on thе bооkѕhеlf аt hоmе, I dоn’t think I have еvеr finiѕhеd оnе оf thеm аll the way thrоugh.

Wе stop оurѕеlvеѕ in any number of ways;

  1. I’m nоt good enough: Wеll, оn Mоndау, a grоuр of ѕtudеntѕ will bе givеn a lecture bу thе worst teacher. Thе wоrѕt асtоr will ѕtаr in a made-for-television mоviе. And thе wоrѕt bоу band will рut оn a mini ѕhоw fоr friends аnd family in their gаrаgе.
  2. No оnе will bе intеrеѕtеd: Juѕt look around at ѕоmе оf the thingѕ уоu see on television оr read in newspapers or bооkѕ оr mаgаzinеѕ. It iѕ аmаzing some thingѕ have lаѕtеd thiѕ long.
  3. I’m too old/young: Cоlоnеl Sаndеrѕ was in his еightiеѕ when he bеgаn hiѕ Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurant. Annе Frаnk wаѕ a уоung girl whеn ѕhе wrоtе her diаrу whiсh iѕ still рubliѕhеd аnd read to this vеrу dау thrоughоut the wоrld.
  4. I dоn’t knоw whаt I wаnt to dо: You mау nоt knоw еxасtlу whаt уоu wаnt tо dо, but there iѕ ѕоmеthing in thе back of your mind thаt iѕ important. Especially if уоu know уоu’rе nоt hарру in whаt уоu аrе doing nоw, уоu knоw thеrе iѕ mоrе уоu want out of lifе.
  5. I wаnt to do too muсh: Nо оnе ѕауѕ уоu саn’t dо a littlе оf everything. Juѕt hаvе tо рiсk one thаt will set thе grоundwоrk fоr thе оthеrѕ. Find whаt is thе common thrеаd in thе things уоu wоuld likе, аnd ѕtаrt thеrе. You саn brаnсh оff оnсе that fоundаtiоn iѕ in place.
  6. Thе univеrѕе is out tо gеt mе: Ummmmm, nоt аt аll. Onсе уоu mаkе uр your mind аnd begin hеаding in ѕоmе dirесtiоn, thе univеrѕе will open up in ways you саn’t see right now. People will соmе intо уоur lifе, events will tаkе рlасе, аnd уоu will bеgin tо see a bit further each day. But уоu hаvе tо mаkе thе firѕt mоvеѕ.

Mоtivаtiоnаl ѕреаkеr Lеѕ Brown in his bооk “It’ѕ Nоt Ovеr Until Yоu Win,” tеllѕ a story оf a keynote ѕреаkеr аt a National Speakers Aѕѕосiаtiоn соnfеrеnсе hе аttеndеd. Thе ѕреаkеr wаѕ реrhарѕ thе wоrѕt ѕреаkеr Les hаd еvеr heard. Thе mаn ѕроkе in a mоnоtоnе vоiсе and was dull as a buttеr knifе. Bу thе еnd оf hiѕ presentation, more thаn twо-thirdѕ оf thе audience hаd wаlkеd оut.

Thе ѕреаkеr, noticing this ѕаid ѕоmеthing thаt рrеttу much ѕumѕ up thiѕ соlumn.

“The reason I am uр hеrе (Dоing) аnd уоu аrе sitting down there (watching) is bесаuѕе I represent thе thoughts you hаvе rеjесtеd fоr yourself.”

Givе уоurѕеlf a chance аnd gеt оut of your оwn wау.

Jesse’s dad is turning 40

I am Jesse’s dad and he has let me write a post here as it’s important to me. And I don’t have a blog of my own, he edited it for me as well, as I am not good at that.

I will be forty years old in less than a year. Saying that turning forty did not trouble me, then, I will be a liar. To several people out there 40 seems to be just a number, but this where I thought I should have accomplished my dreams and goals or my life should be a perfect reflection of a successful mother, wife, business lady and other demanding expectations I desired when I was younger. Although my life seems to be plenty good, I feel that it could be even more beautiful if I did things differently. My life would not turn the way it is if I had taken some time to plan for it. I am a proud mother of two and I have some accomplishments, but when I compare my life with that of others, sometimes it just gets me down. When I reflect being under the sun for almost forty years and I look back at my 30s, I could have changed a few things. Fortunately, due to my past life challenges, I had to learn some new ways of doing things.
My past experiences altered my life into a better one.

The following are the top honest tips that every woman in 30s should know.

Accept and love yourself fully
Well, many folks think that loving yourself is narcissistic and selfish, but this is not the truth. Self-love starts by giving yourself care and attention that will make you feel good. Besides, self-love makes us remember where our power lies and helps us to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. In other words, not unless you love and accept yourself, nobody will. I think if I had accepted the facts about my life at a tender age, I would have learnt to make right decisions. Once you love and accept who you are, then, you can love others as well. This will significantly help you maintain a healthy relationship with your friends, family or the workmates.

Feed Your Soul
When your soul is in trouble, it is very hard to see clearly. Anger, despair and sorrows can distort your perception of certainty. It becomes difficult to keep things in understanding. They can, in fact, magnify your problems. Ensure that you do what makes you feel inspired and happy. Go for your passion and whatever makes your life look brighter than normal. However, if you don’t know what your passion is, then you should try to do different and activities until you find that thing that will give you freedom, warmth and acceptance inside.

Have a Choice of Good Friends
Spending moments with friends is fun, but it can also have a multiple of emotional and healthy benefits. Good relationships with your friends and family may lessen grief; make aging more interesting and offer camaraderie to assist you reach personal goals and help you overcome the difficulties. An only true friend comes forward to help us when facing difficult situations in life. For a long time, I tried to do things by myself, but I eventually came to understand having friends to share my life with is so worthwhile.

Be Authentic
Despite how much I faced difficulties in my life, I wore a beautiful smile on my face. Many people thought all was well with me, but that was not the case. When you start showing others that you have challenges in life, ups and down just like anybody else, you become more sincere and trustworthy to others.

Live for You
My life was much taken up with the truth that I cared for other people more that I cared for myself. I had no time for myself. My reasons and motives of doing things were weird which made my life harder than it was supposed to be. Your life gets much easier when you start making the right decisions for yourself instead of others.

Avoid compromising too much
Compromise is required in any healthy relationship since we are all different and have unlike needs. But is good to evaluate the relationship and decide whether it is good for you or not. If not, then you should avoid it completely.

Travel More
Travelling to new places gives you a sense of freedom and helps you know how other people outside your country live. In fact, this is my biggest regret. I wish I knew money can buy memories.

Worry less
Worries will not solve your problems or make you feel better. You should learn to accept unchangeable things and move on your life. I worried too much in my past and the moments I stopped worrying, everything became easier and my stress reduced immensely.

Stop Comparing
Do you know that comparing your life with that your friends do not do you any good but bring your self-worth down? The moment I realized that there will always somebody better than I am, somebody smarter than me, then my life became easier to handle.

Forget too Much Expectation
I always had this behavior of expecting all good things to come in my way, but this never happened. When my expectations turned to be not real, I just forgot all my expectations and started afresh. Once you notice that all is not lost, and your dreams can still be valid, then you will start enjoying your life without worrying what life will give you.

Live To Work
I always worked to live, and this affected my life so much. I never took a time to search for my best career, but rather I looked for a well-paying job. I was not happy at all. When you choose to do what you love most, it shows that you will enjoy your job as well as your life.

Forgive others and yourself
I lived a life of blaming other people for what they did to me. I hated them with a passion and said I will not forgive them. But, since I realized having the grudge towards other people was hiding my smell, then I learnt to forgive and forget. When you let the negativity of the past go, you begin seeing life in a positive light

Avoid negative people
People will not always love and appreciate what you do. The best way is to be yourself and move forward with your life.

Admire little things
Be simple love the little you do and this will add a beautiful smile on your face each day of your life.

Think twice before you Say “I do”
Marriage is not bed roses. I expected more than I had and so I got married hoping things would be better. But, to me, things became worse. Before marrying someone you should ensure that both of you are ready for each other. It is much easier to end a young relationship with your boyfriend before it becomes too serious than divorcing after having a family together.

Learn to Say NO
You don’t have to accept everything your friend, spouse or the family tells you in seek of love or attention. Being confident helps you make the right decision for yourself. It was very hard for me to say no since I wanted to make everyone happy. But since I noticed I was doing the wrong this, I started trusting myself and making good decisions for myself.

Give back more
Sometimes it is good to forget about your life problems and take time to help someone else. For me, I enjoyed helping others and through this I learnt to be thankful for what I had.

Save for future
Although I did not do this when I was younger, it is always important to save your resources and spend them wisely. saving for the future hardships is a sound and smart decision.

Reap the Excellent Health Benefits from Beer

Are you feeling guilty about drinking beer? If so, change your guilty mood! Drinking beer is not an offense. Trends have been changed and so to the study of the researchers. Recently, researchers have given the good news that consuming beer is good for health. However, there must be a certain limit for everything. Women can drink about 1 beer in a day. And men can consume two beers a day. Consuming beer with limits gives best health benefits when compared to non-beer drinkers.

Beer can be consumed anytime, and it’s good if you consume in the night to get a good sleep. Beer is not just good for health and to get good sleep, but also to get glowing skin. Besides these, it reduces the stress level, decreases the risk of heart disease, etc. Once you know the merits of drinking beer, you will definitely repent for not consuming so far!

Below are few of the surprising benefits of drinking beer. 

Minimize the Risk of Heart Disease
One of the leading research institutes in Italy has found that 31 percent of the beer consumers have been safe from heart disease. The Beer has all the natural antioxidants known as ??phenols’ which made the beer a powerful drink. And the rate of heart diseases has minimized in the people who consume beer regularly!

Safeguards from Alzheimer’s Disease
Another best advantage for Beer drinkers is to stay away from Alzheimer’s disease. One of the most popular Research Institutes in Chicago School of Medicine has pursued various studies about beer consumption. And their research made them come to the conclusion that, 23 percent of the beer drinkers are less likely to get attacked from several diseases like Alzheimer’s. Also, the silicon content in the beer protects the brain of the beer drinker, from the harmful effects of the aluminium (high level) in the body.

Reduces the Risk of Diabetes
Drinking beer has also cut down the risks of diabetes when compared with the non-drinker. As per the Harvard study (2011), 25 percent of the men (middle-aged) are safe from diabetes type-2. These Men were supposed to consume about 1-2 beer per day. Because, the alcohol content that is present in the beer has increased the insulin sensitivity and minimizes the risk of diabetes.

Helps to Remove Kidney Stones
The Finland Research study has found that regular consumption of beer has minimized 40 percent of the risk factor of developing kidney stones. This becomes possible with the high amounts of water content in the beer that helps remove the harmful toxins out from the body. This assists to keep the kidney in good condition by making it function properly.

Reduces the Risk of Cancer
One of the powerful antioxidants such as ??Xanthohumol’ present in the beer has cancer curing property. This helps to sweep away all the enzymes that cause cancer in the body. Also, a certain type of chemical reaction that leads to prostate cancer in men can be prevented through moderate beer consumption. Similarly, breast cancer in women is prevented through beer consumption.

Decreases Cholesterol Levels
It is commonly known that, Cholesterol levels always get decreased by moderate beer consumption. Because, the barley that is used while producing the beer includes a kind of soluble fiber, ??Beta-Glucans’ that helps in decreasing the cholesterol levels.

Balances Blood Pressure Level
As per Harvard Study, women between the ages of 25-40 who consume regular beer have balanced Blood Pressure Level. This is absolutely the reverse order of other women who drink wine or other alcoholic beverages.

Makes Bones Strong
Beer is capable of making the bones stronger due to certain amounts of Silicon contents that increase the bone’s health. Tufts research (2009), has found that the people who consume about a 1-2 glass of beers daily have high bone density. And risks of getting fractured will be minimized when compared to non-beer drinkers.

Kicks-off Dandruff
Beer is found to be an excellent natural treatment for dandruff, which is attributed to the high yeast and vitamin B Contents. You need to rinse your hair with a bottle of beer for about at least twice a week. This kicks-off dandruff and thereby gives extra softness to the hair as well as makes them shine.

Minimize the Risk of Strokes
Many research studies such as the American Stroke Association and the Harvard School have proven results of minimizing the risk of strokes. The studies show that consuming regular amounts of beer are out of risk (50 percent) from Strokes compared to the non-beer drinkers. Daily beer consumption assists to prevent blood clots to various parts of the body and improves blood flow.

Conclusion: Drinking 1-2 beer regularly provides lots of health benefits when compared to non-beer drinkers.

Top 10 Priciest Limousines in the World

toyota century royal

Love a limo man, so did some research.

A limousine is the most expensive kind of automobile method of land transportation in the world. It’s a luxury sedan that has a wheelbase which is stretched and driven by a chauffeur. Regularly, it’s used and rented for special events, such as weddings. They are commonly owned by the wealthy and rich people in the world, like the politicians and government officials.

Before a limousine is sold to the limousine companies, it’s always bought and modified by the third party company. Yearly, the limousine industry is worth more than $4 billion in the U.S only. Limousine companies are over 4,000 and each company has over 42,000 employees. So it’s not a useless sector of the economy in the world. In this article, we’re going to discuss in detail the top ten priciest limousines which rich people use.

#1 – Toyota Century Royal

Since 2006, the Japan car giant has built only four units of Toyota Century Royal. Currently, it costs approximately $534,135. The specifications it has included four doors, FR layout, five-literV121GZ-FE engine that has the ability to produce up to 276 HP, a 6-speed transmission automatic system called the six Super ECT and its length is 6.155 meters.

The Toyota Century Royal limousine has a leather compartment, an internal entry step and its made in wool cloth upholstery. Exclusively, the vehicle is produced for Japan’s Emperor. So security measures are built within the car for the Japanese royal family to be protected from any kind of harm.

#2 – Cadillac One

The Cadillac One limousine is also called the Limo One. It’s a government limousine, produced by the General Motors to be used by the United States president. It has a chassis and driveline that are taken from the Chevrolet’s commercial truck known as the Kodiak. Even though it’s based on the Cadillac DTS, its door handles, the headlights and side mirrors are taken from the Cadillac Escalade. The tail lights as well as the backup lights got inspired by the company’s CTS sedan. It costs approximately $300,000 on the market.

#3 – Mercedes Benz S Class

Since 1954, the model of German giant has been the Mercedes Benz S Class limousine. The car has received motoring awards from Motor Trend Magazine and Automobile Magazine.It has also served as a launching pad for the innovations of the German company in the safety systems, interior styling and DrivetrainTechnologies.

The specifications it has includes an engine in the front and a back wheel-drive layout, a six liter V12 AMG as an engine which has the ability to produce up to 621 HP and a seven automatic transmission system for speed. The limousine costs approximately $154,000.

#4 – Chrysler 300 Limousine

The Chrysler 300 is the first model that made use of the latestChrysler winged emblem which took the position ofthe blue ribbon logo which has been in use since 1930’s. It’s a long wheelbase version of the luxury car owned by the Chrysler’s family. Canada is its main manufacturer and it’s based on the platform of Chrysler LX. One of the specifications it has is a 6.4 liter HEMI V8 petrol engine that has an automatic transmission system of 8HP45. Its approximate cost is $140,000.

#5 – Hyundai Equus Limousine

The only available limousine in South Korea is the Hyundai Equus, which is a long wheelbase version of Equus. The Presidential Security Services of South Korean uses the 5.5 liter version of this limousine for his events. And its approximate cost is $113,000. The specifications it has include a power driven footrest, a massage system, a bar radiator grill which is horizontal, a rear seat for leg support and a Tau 5-liter fuel engine with the ability of 395 hp at 3,500 rmp.

#6 – Mitsubishi Dignity Limousine

Originally, this limousine was produced from 1999 – 2001, then it disappeared. Later, Mitsubishi reintroduced it back in 2012. Mitsubishi Dignity limousine has a front wheel layout, a 4.5 liter V8 engine, a front engine, an INVECS II 5-speed system of automatic transmission and 5.33 meters length. And it approximately costs $105,500.

#7 – Chairman W Limousine

The Chairman W limousine is the first to be produced from Korea that has a four-wheel drive which is always found in the European vehicles. The limousine can travel up to 7.3 kilometers for a liter of gasoline. The vehicle has a five-liter V8 petrol engine that has 4,966 cc for displacement. It also has power of 302 hp at 5,600 rmp, a 7-speed system of automatic transmission and a speed of 250 kilometers per hour. Approximately it costs $103,000.

#8 – Lincoln MKS Limousine

This is the product of the Ford Motor Company. It’s based on the Ford D-three platform and assembled in Chicago. The features it has include a 3.5 liter engine of V6 DOHC which has the ability of 355 hp at 5,700 rpm, a front wheel, all the wheel drive layouts and a 6-speed of 6F55 automatic transmission system. It costs approximately $49,800.

#9 – Cadillac XTS limousine

The Cadillac XTS is assembled in Ontario in Canada and Shanghai in China. It’s the stretched wheelbase version of XTS sedan and it was introduced into the market in the year 2012. The features it has include a 3.6 liter of V6 gasoline engine charged up to 410 hp, a system of 6-speed automatic transmission, a torque of 369 lb-ft and front engine layout that has all the wheel drive capability. Its approximate cost is $48,635.

#10 – Great Wall Hover Pi Limousine

The first Chinese motors manufacturer to export vehicles in large quantities to the western world is the Great Wall Motors Company. The significant quantity exported happened in the year 2006 when the Great Wall Motors Company exported about 30,000 units of their vehicle model to Italy.

Also, this company has a limousine version referred to as Great Wall Hover Pi. Its first unit was offered to Fidel Castro, the Cuban leader as a gift. The features it has include a 2.4 liter petrol engine and its length is 6.9 meters and it costs $33,750.


From the information above, you are now aware of the priciest limousine in the world. They are mainly used by the rich and wealthy people, because they are very expensive for the poor people to afford. But if you are blessed with money, you can prefer any of the above mentioned limousines based on your taste and money.

And boom gotta love my good old friend in Florida, who has a limousine company, good old Steve, we have visited him recently and rode in one of his beauties.An amazing vehicle.











11 things teenager’s parents should learn to appreciate

My view on what my parents will get out of me… 🙂

It’s of the general notion that parenting teenagers is not an easy job. There’s lots of negativity about the matter amidst the public and media and even parents of teens complain it’s a difficult job. However, as a parent of two teenagers, I believe there’s more good to it than meets the eye. In fact, there are more advantages to disadvantages of parenting a teenager.

So no matter if you have teenagers or have younger children and are worrying about their teenage years, it’s worth your time going through these 11 things worth appreciating about being the parent of a teenager.

1. You get to see their transition phase

This phase, teenage years, is when your child transitions from a child to an adult and is something amazing. Though it may seem scary and exciting, you are lucky you can see it. So instead of wasting time yearning for their childhood, learn to observe and soak in all their changes as it’s the biggest transition in their lives.

2. They are now self-sufficient

You were the constant source of entertainment for your children when they were small. However, as teens, they are now self-sufficient and don’t need your attention all the time. So instead of despairing about the time they spend on their devices, think about the time you now have to yourself!

3. They behave well in public

While you had to worry about how your toddlers would behave in a restaurant or someone’s house, there’s no worry with your teens. Though they may behave differently when they are alone, they know how appropriate they should behave when they are out in public with you.

4. You are helping them make important decisions

It is during their teenage years that teenagers have to make big decisions about their future, and decide which subjects to drop, which to study further, their career choices and their future. You will have a part in all their decisions, providing them the required help and guidance. This itself is a privilege as you are helping human beings choose the right plans for the rest of their lives.

5. You now have similar interests

Almost overnight your child’s interest in books, movies, food and places to visit seems to have changed to adult interests. You no longer have to choose your trips based on the quality of their soft play area and if they have a kid-friendly menu. In fact, you can now go to a movie together to see a movie you have always wanted, or even do things alone.

6. Improves your negotiating skills

If you have always wanted to improve your negotiating skills, you’ve got your chance now. Teenagers are passing through a difficult and confusing time as their bodies and minds change. They find it difficult dealing with things.

You can now either spend all your time fighting with them or learn to let the trivial matters slide and instead, concentrate only on important things. While you may make mistakes, with time, you will learn the best way to negotiate and handle them, and thus acquire better negotiating skills!

7. You now have more time to yourself

The phase transformation phase from a child to a teenager is so gradual, you may not even notice that you now have some extra time to yourself. However, if you spend just an hour with a parent of a young child, you’ll remember those days, and that you definitely have more time for yourself now.

8. Hold grown-up discussions together

You will find your teenager developing new and more informed opinions about the world and will be able to hold discussions with you on the same level now. They no longer look to you to provide answers; in fact, you have now learned as much from them as they do from you! So make it a point to hold discussions whenever they call for one, and these discussions will give you a better idea of their character.

9. Teenagers are actually pretty cool

If you have not actually spent any time with teenagers since you were one, you may have forgotten how cool, fun, optimistic and full of life teenagers are. Watching teenagers hang out with their friends and their strong and loyal friendships while they enjoy youth is something to be cherished. These are only a few joyful moments they will be enjoying before taking on adult responsibilities, and is a chance for you to remember what it’s like to be young again.

10. You realize they are more than just your children

Though you always knew your teenagers were not just your children, but also people in their own right, you never actually felt it before. This is when you start imagining them as adults making their way into the future, without you and your support and guidance. While this is bittersweet, learn to focus on the sweet aspects.

11. You realize the results of your earlier parenting

While there may be varied aspects of your parenting, there’s always some good. While you may curse yourself for letting them learn some bad habits when small, you will also feel proud when you see the good traits you’d brought out from them through your parenting.